Why not send all your department an email. Keep it light and short. Just say that you would like staff to call you by your first name rather than be called the technician (when there are no pupils around) as it makes you feel more part of the team. It is disrespectful of you HOY not to use your name but sometimes you can get what you want without making a big issue of it. They will take the hint.I've been working in this school since September and my HoD seems to be unable to call me by my name. Initially I didn't think much of this as I was often referred to as 'miss'- especially in front of the students. However, as time has gone on I've noticed that everyone in the department is called by their name when not around students but this does not seem to be the case with me. I've also overheard her calling me 'that lab girl' to other members of staff.
I'm not very good at confrontation so I'm not sure how to deal with this, any suggestions are welcome.
yep, my mum had to give up work at the local council in the early 60's when she got married. She could never understand why women today carry on workingI had a conversation last week with one of our lady physicists who happens to have a doctorate so is Dr not Miss by title anyway within the school about how much she dislikes the term Miss. The practice dates back to the early 20th century when marriage bars prevented married women from having a career in education so the only women working in schools were unmarried and hence 'Miss'. Once a woman married they were expected to resign and give up their career to become a homemaker, this law was only finally abandoned in 1944 in education (and was still happening in other jobs as late as the 1970s!) Male school staff could have a career in education whether married or unmarried and were given the respectful moniker 'Sir' to reflect this. The term Miss is not the female equivalent of Sir (that would be Ma'am) and directly links back to the marriage bar when female staff were never expected to have a career in education and it was just a stop gap while they awaited a man to marry them!
I thought it was interesting food for thought....! Definitely nicer to be called by your given name